The boy's club - witnessing cis-male misogyny

[jameslaser]

Hey, I had this experience two days ago, in a video game store. Which I've always found to be a very dude-centric environment. In an uncomfortable way. So I was browsing and the two guys working there started talking about some game where a female character gets naked. They were going on and on saying horrible shit like "What was her name again? Who cares?" "I already forgot her name. That's how much I care." I had my back to them. I turned bright fucking red and started sweating and shaking. I mean, let me explain I guess. It's just, I lived as a woman for 20 years. I am a survivor of sexual abuse and exploitation, because of objectifying fucks like them. So hearing people talk like that is, on a good day, upsetting. On a bad day, it's extremely triggering. And it just...sucks. To be taken for a guy and hear other guys talking all this disgusting shit about women. I mean this is not the first time this has happened for me. I was wondering if other FTM's, or also MAAB trans people who are living disguised as men, have shitty experiences like this. You know, where you're assumed to be "part of the club". And you're NOT.

(And for the record, I don't know for sure that the guys talking were cis. If they aren't, then shame on them. I mean...I just feel like transguys should know better. But I know we often don't.)

[Edge]

Cis, trans, whatever, male, female, and everything in between and outside... That kind of behaviour is pathetic and they are losers. I know plenty of people (cis guys included) who are repulsed by that. So yeah, there are a lot of people of all sorts who are not part that "club."
I'm a survivor too. For some reason, the most of the misogynist people I've ever met are goths.

[MonochromeShine]

For some reason, the most of the misogynist people I've ever met are goths.

Really? Huh. One of the most accepting people I know is a Goth. Then again, it may just be that people who can't accept don't last very long where I go to school. Go art schools!

[Sammicat]

For some reason, the most of the misogynist people I've ever met are goths.

Really? I don't know very many goths but I was under the impression the Goth culture was very much against that. Rivet on the other hand... >.>

[alex]

This sort of thing bothers me to no end. Which is part of the reason I don't get along so well with cismales. As for the goths like all people it depends. In my experience goths tend to be more busy with criticizeing
clothing and style then objectifying women