wondering where i belong...

[dantelia]

I haven't figured out what gender label fits me yet. I feel a little bit like a girl and a little bit like a boy, but not enough like either that I could ever happily or even successfully live as one or the other exclusively--I know because I've tried both, and in neither case could I truly relate to my target gender role.

Physically I would actually prefer to be neither. I like both male and female clothing and hairstyles and such and I could pick and choose whatever I like from either category and not feel the slightest bit uncomfortable or odd about my mix-and-match form of expression. In a metaphor, I have twice as many colors on my palette than most people, and I'm colorblind to boot.

But I don't want to be seen as male, or female, or even male-and-female. I don't want to be related to in a gender-specific way at all. Does that make me neutrois?

[EJA]

Yes, I suppose that would make you neutrois, if you want to be seen as 'nothing' - neither male or female or anything else...hmm, I'm not an expert. Great metaphor though.

And btw, I love the blue guy in your avatar <3 What's his name again? Snitch? Stitch? Something like that...

[Ryles]

Their avatar's Stitch. He is adorable


There's a couple options. Agender/Neutrois might be it. Basically it's neither male nor female, you wouldn't be happy living as a man or a woman, but you also aren't a mix of the two.

It sounds like you could be a mix of that and androgyne- low amounts of both girl and boy, so a mix, but low enough that you aren't fully an androgyne, and might not feel comfortable identifying as such.

[Andra]

No reason why you can't be a little bit girl, a little bit boy but predominantly neither. androneutrogyne?

Sounds to me like you're towards the neutrois end of the spectrum at least

[dantelia]

Thank you all for the input.

[Kihata]

androneutrogyne

Intense vocabulary! Hehehe

[omelu]

I think you can be neutrois. if there's one thing we should all understand its how imperfect labels are. I identify as neutrois, but if I could just make my body neutral than I think I would dress neutral most of the time, but on special occasions I would go whichever way suited me. I want the freedom to be neither, or either, though most of the time I want neither.

[nome]

androneutrogyne

Intense vocabulary! Hehehe

Ditto! I strongly approve/love/dig.

[Ji Tusk]

The best part of genderqueer is making up words <3 I'm digging that one.

[nome]

The best part of genderqueer is making up words <3 I'm digging that one.

I definitely agree!

[Catechin]

androneutrogyne

I like this one, I feel it more than just androgyne.

I identify as neutrois, but if I could just make my body neutral than I think I would dress neutral most of the time, but on special occasions I would go whichever way suited me. I want the freedom to be neither, or either, though most of the time I want neither.

I feel like this too, somewhere between neutrois/agendered and androgyne. I don't feel I have to choose to be neither/nor or both/and in regards to polarized gender. Neutrandrogyne is kind of hard to say.

[Ryles]

I feel like this too, somewhere between neutrois/agendered and androgyne. I don't feel I have to choose to be neither/nor or both/and in regards to polarized gender. Neutrandrogyne is kind of hard to say.

That is a problem with all the labels- it's hard to figure out what to do when you're between two of em. :/ I like androneutrogyne, though, rolls off the tongue a bit better than neutrandrogyne.

[Ji Tusk]

It's like being the dirt path between some sanctioned roads that have sign posts on 'em.