Questioning My Physical Gender, Answers Desparately Needed

[Jordan]

My physical gender has always been a bio-female and I conciously assumed that for most of my life(23 years). But a strange area of skin on or close to my hymen always gave me a little doubt, especially when looking at it in the bathtub. It looks like a tiny penis not much bigger than a bread crumb but with one side attached to surrounding skin near or on the hymen. I must also say that my hymen has always been wrinkled and not smooth like I saw one of another bio-female in a educational photograph, not porn, on the internet. I have even noticed a much thinner piece of skin, thin as a thread, that can erect like a penis, but I do not feel anything. However I know that hymens come in many different formations and seen a diagram of illustrations of rare types but I did not find any that looked like mine. I believe what I have is probably just a rare skin formation but also a small chance of being intersexed. Can anybody on this board give me answers?


I put this topic in this particular forum because I consider my mental gender neutrois.

[ewd]

You sound "normal" to me....though I don't really like that phrase, you would think by looking at porn there is such a thing.

There isn't really, all sorts of formations and stuff down there...and it behaves in various different ways .

There is nothing physical that's described to make me think intersex.

[AlexTheSane]

If you're concerned about it, maybe bring it to the attention of a doctor? Given your age I would assume by now you would have seen a gynecologist at least once, if it was odd they probably would have mentioned it.

[Zainin]

Given your age I would assume by now you would have seen a gynecologist at least once, if it was odd they probably would have mentioned it.

Actually, one of my best friends is twenty five and never has, despite me urging her plenty to do so, especially as she is sexually active.

But I do back this up. You should ask a doctor if you're concerned. From the description you've given, I personally don't see anything "abnormal", though I do find it a bit odd, I admit, that your hymen is still intact. Most biological girls break theirs by time they hit their 20's, if not in their teen years, oftentimes in ways not even related to sex. And some girls do have wrinkled or ridged hymens. I've seen examples in medical books of girls being born with ones that actually are broken or have holes in them to begin with, and I've seen pictures of some that are smooth and some that aren't. Some girls don't even get one, period. Many girls break theirs due to physical activity like sports, horseback riding, et cetera, and others can lose theirs at their first gynecologist appointment if for some reason a speculum is required. I always had problems with my ovaries and uterus and I had to see a gynecologist starting at a young age and I had to be examined this way a few times.

Not to sound rude or condescending, but where do you think your hymen is? I'm really not trying to come off like that, but I've actually had conversations with biological girls that are my age (in their early\mid twenties) that don't know where their hymen is or if they still have one. I've met a few that don't even really know where their clitoris is. I actually have had a girl I know show me a pornographic picture and ask me if the girl in it was intersex, because she had a "tiny penis".... when she clearly wasn't. The picture was just zoomed in on the woman's engorged clitoris.

None of us, though, are doctors, and we frankly can't give you an answer just from a description. I would advise you see someone about this. If you live in the USA and don't have a lot of money, I know Planned Parenthoods in my area will give girls and women gynecological exams for cheap or free, going on income.

[not_quite_pie]

Female genitals are pretty complicated. The only thing I can think of that looks like a tiny penis is the clitoris, which isn't near the hymen (it does have a hood fold, though, up near the top of the labia minora).

It doesn't sound like an intersex condition to me; the penis is the male equivalent of the clitoris and doesn't develop from any other part of the female genitals. But I'm not a doctor; you might want to see a professional.