Ick, bra shopping [random ranting]

[not_quite_pie]

So today I went bra shopping.

A chore for the most girly of women, this is naturally not something that I enjoy. Fortunately my *reason* for bra shopping was a bit of a pick-me-up -- having recently lost some weight, my normal E cups were far too baggy for my breasts. When your bras are so baggy that they show clearly through every baggy nerd-top you own it's time to go shopping. Also they had a sale on cotton pajamas.

Now, shopping itself is not that much of a problem. We all need clothes, and those of us with fat-bags on our chests need special support clothes. The staff in my local lengerie shop are absolutely brilliant salespeople, which is fair enough since their job is to basically make people not feel uncomfortable when buying underwear. No, what I hate is that dreaded question -- "are you after anything sexy to go with that?" -- as they lead you to the World of Pink And Black Lace down the back.

I am an overweight asexual neutrois, with body image issues compounded from at least two of those factors. The concept of my chestblobs as erotica is... not a comfortable one. So I say no, thank you, just plain ones, and I accept their offer of a fitting, because the whole reason I'm here is that my old 14Es don't fit. (It's not until I'm in there that I remember that women usually shave their underarms unlike me, but the fitter is either well-trained or doesn't care.)

Yeah... about that body weight change thing? Turns out fat doesn't necessarily mean boobfat. My bra was loose because the strap is now too wide. I'm now a 12F. My cups have become bigger.

So I take my new Lady Support Systems and politely fend off the fitter's offer to find something more sexy (she's a different person than the saleswoman who first greeted me), but I'm unable to stop her from showing me the sale on lacy, lacy panties they're having. Yeah... that's not something I see myself needing right now.

Well, hey, if all goes well, I shouldn't have to go back for at least six months. And if I'm in a G cup by then I'm going on a diet or something.

[Kihata]

*hugs* I know what you mean about the whole sexy thing, though when I shop, I don't bother to ask for help from any associate. Unless, of course, I have a very specific question. I try things on by myself, and rely on the mirror or a close friend or family member to give the outside input.

As for shaving, I decided last year that it's not worth the pain. I don't feel "sexy" (or pretty, for that matter) when I do, so I quit entirely. What other people think is what other people think. And how I feel, well, other people can't know that. I don't feel bad at all when seeing a doctor and being unshaven. It's not their place to judge. They're there to assess your health and your questions regarding it. Ummmm. So ya I went off on a rant there. Sorries!

Hope you feel better soon!

[itsa_wallaby]

Wow, I feel really lucky that I can just get sports bras. I would HATE getting measured. My friends made me go into a lingerie shop with them once - it was horribly embarrassing. I didn't know where to look. I can't imagine having to actually buy stuff there.

[bright_frost]

I had to do that at the beginning of the summer. I'm agendered, but when I'm at home, I'm expected to be a girl. My mother griped at me for about 2 weeks over me wearing sports bras all the time and how unflattering and boyish that looked. She's always complaining that I don't dress in a feminine enough manner.

When I made the excuse that it was because none of my normal bras fit properly, she dragged me off to the department store to be fitted. And then off to Victoria Secret because "bras are what they do, so they'll be the best place to go." (She said it was because I wear such a weird size. I'm a 32C and my ribcage is deformed such that I can't wear an underwire because my boobs just escape out the bottom. I think it was really just that she's never been able to get either of her daughters within 100 feet of that place.) I was not expecting the saleswoman to come in and check how the bra she had me try on fit. I don't think I've been that embarrassed in quite a while. I don't like people being able to see my boobs when they're fully clothed.

</rant> Anyway, *hugs* that sucks.

[NightBlooming]

Glad you got through that and have acquired a comfortable piece of clothing.
*hugs*

Anyway, not sure if you care, but that doesn't mean your breasts has necessarily gotten bigger. The cup size is determined by a bunch of math about the proportion between the ribcage and the... stuff on top. so the ribcage area getting thinner could explain it all.

/random

[not_quite_pie]

Glad you got through that and have acquired a comfortable piece of clothing.
*hugs*

Anyway, not sure if you care, but that doesn't mean your breasts has necessarily gotten bigger. The cup size is determined by a bunch of math about the proportion between the ribcage and the... stuff on top. so the ribcage area getting thinner could explain it all.

/random

Oh, I didn't know that. Thanks.