Forum Activity Level

[Dee]

It seems this forum doesn't get visited very often. Are there just not many people who are multiple genders or is there some other reason?

[Shadow Dragon]

We never seem to have that many muti-gendered people around at one time. By the way, welcome to WiG.

[Dee]

Thank you. It's nice to have a place to visit where I can be myself. I'm bigendered. I'm learning who I am and who I want to be. We are two distinct people living in one body.

[AlexTheSane]

We used to have a rather large community of multiples, but most of them have gone inactive or moved someplace else. Welcome to the forum, by the way.

[Dee]

Thank you for the welcome. Why did they go inactive or move away?

[vampyre_smiles]

I'm sort of multiple... I guess. It's kinda weird. I (Teagan) am usually the one in control irl and most of the others don't care for message boards. Since most of us get along in here, or at least try to be civil, we tend not to have as many issues about being multiple as being genderqueer in itself. Though I check this part of the board if there's anything new and try to give advice when I can.

Welcome. There's various food and drink products in the fridge. Help yourselves.

[Dee]

He and I are aware of one another. We always have been on one level or another. We're living in a healthy multiplicity. Most of the time we work together.

Who has the foreground, the one who manifests, or however you wish to express it, is generally agreed upon easily.

He wants me to have as full a life as I can. I want him to have as full a life as he can.

I'll probably be the only one posting here, though. It's not his cup of tea.

Any Key Lime pie in there? YUM

[Ryles]

People don't always say why they go inactive, so it's hard to tell.
Also, a few cases happened where someone thought they were multiple but weren't or had their headmates just leave one day. I think 2 of the more active posters here had that happen.

I'm multiple, but functionally singlet and get emo about the fact I'm stuck in front so I don't post here very much unless someone else has. If you haven't seen it yet, you should check out the multiplicity community on LJ. You have to have a livejournal to join, but it started December of '01 so it has a ton of archives and a lot of helpful members.

[Kass-ID]

I think that there are a good number of active multiples/bi/tri/gender people on the board. They just don't typically post on this thread. Most post end up in one of the general discussions threads.

[phx_rising]

Hi! I'm Sara
and I'm Evan.
We're bigendered....or if you'd like to get super duper complex...we're actually trigendered. Though we identify as bigendered We're mostly intergrated....I keep promising Ryles a drawing to depict that point but I've yet to be inspired ENOUGH to actually sit down and draw it. *shrugs* I have a feeling it wouldn't turn out quite as I'd desire anyway....I digress.
We share space most the time....with Sara presenting and Evan looking closely over the shoulder...as it were. It's extremely rare that either is deep and unaware of the goings on.
Normally for whatever reason I don't post here...I put my stuff in the andro/intersexed section. My only thought on that is because of internalized issues with being seen as multiple. Who knows.
Anywho...welcome!

[ninurta]

We're still around, just at different times.

[MiaAndMarq]

We used to think that Bigender was the correct term for us but under closer investigation, the widely accepted definition was describing a single person with two seperate personas that can be switched between. We found a better term 'Two-Spirit' that seemed to fit closer to what we felt, two seperate spirits/souls/etc in a single body. Of course on the base level, our experiences and concerns are very similiar to that of a bigendered person which is why initially it seemed like a good enough fit.

We were pretty active when the forums just started up and as the conversations died down, there wasn't as much to add to. Hopefully a revitalization is still possible in this subboard. Lets all get those conversations going again if possible.

Mia and Marq

[Jamie]

I used to be plural, but integrated, I guess.

They're not about now, anyway

[Ji Tusk]

Hmmm.
I am bigendered, but I generally don't trawl around here because the separation of multiple genders into two different entities makes me very uncomfortable. I'm not religious; I don't believe there are two souls in my body, and I don't feel the need to separate myself as man from myself as woman. The closeness it comes to dissociative identity disorder is, for me and in my opinion only, not the healthiest way to go about my gender. I've already suffered a disassociation growing up trying to act like a ciswoman.

So, in that sense, I am more fluid/androgyne than split, and thus I stick to the androgyne and neutrois sections. I don't want to rain on anyone's parade over here or feel like I have to view myself as split. ^^;

[Yorrick]

We've been away for a while but we're around...

[UncertainKitten]

People don't always say why they go inactive, so it's hard to tell.
Also, a few cases happened where someone thought they were multiple but weren't or had their headmates just leave one day. I think 2 of the more active posters here had that happen.

I'm multiple, but functionally singlet and get emo about the fact I'm stuck in front so I don't post here very much unless someone else has. If you haven't seen it yet, you should check out the multiplicity community on LJ. You have to have a livejournal to join, but it started December of '01 so it has a ton of archives and a lot of helpful members.

Not sure if I'm one of them. And she didn't leave, she integrated with me. Well, more like he integrated with me I guess? It's kinda confusing when I get into multiple pronouns and deal with an integration situation. But, the end result is I'm basically a boring transgirl now

I know there is another person on this forum who doesn't post often that went from multiple to gender fluid though.

[Ryles]

Not sure if I'm one of them. And she didn't leave, she integrated with me. Well, more like he integrated with me I guess? It's kinda confusing when I get into multiple pronouns and deal with an integration situation. But, the end result is I'm basically a boring transgirl now

I think it's pretty common (not like "everyone does it" so much as "I've seen it a few times") for trans people to be bigendered for a little while. It might be a coping mechanism- you create a [birth sex] persona that ends up extremely fleshed out over the years and then when your true gender starts shining out, it's like you have two separate people/personalities/whatevers at the same time, and then as you're freer to be yourself, you don't need two separate personas and either the two come together or the [birth sex] persona is cast aside.

[Dee]

We used to think that Bigender was the correct term for us but under closer investigation, the widely accepted definition was describing a single person with two seperate personas that can be switched between. We found a better term 'Two-Spirit' that seemed to fit closer to what we felt, two seperate spirits/souls/etc in a single body. Of course on the base level, our experiences and concerns are very similiar to that of a bigendered person which is why initially it seemed like a good enough fit.

We were pretty active when the forums just started up and as the conversations died down, there wasn't as much to add to. Hopefully a revitalization is still possible in this subboard. Lets all get those conversations going again if possible.

Mia and Marq

What's the difference between two spirited and bigendered?

[ninurta]

WElcome! We're around from time to time.

[Lyn Aven]

What's the difference between two spirited and bigendered?

It's all rather subjective, as someone using my definition of "bigender" might label themself "two-spirit" and someone using Mia/Marq's definition of "two-spirit" might label themselves "bigender."

But at least in this case, a bigender person (like me) is a single person with two (or more) gender identities. A bigender person thinks of themself as one entity even if they have two names.

A two-spirited person (like Mia/Marq) is two people with different gender identities inhabiting a single body. They have separate internal monologues and think of themselves as independent beings.