Question for our fellow Multiples

[Wesley_Lexi]

This is something that crossed our mind just a moment ago reading static nonsense's posts in the 'I Hate This' thread.

To all the plural systems... In your shared body, is there a certain person in a 'dominant' or 'almost constantly active' state? If so (to the other memebers of the system), which, if any of you, do you think would take their place if given the chance? By this I mean if your lives could resume without further troubles, and the current 'host' was okay with it?

In our duality, I do take the wheel most of the time, since I was the 'first', and other people don't always know about Lexi, but do know about me.

I would take over, but I would have some problems with dysphoria over time. My preference would to have equal time between us. I would be really happy though to just be able to wake up one morning, go to bed that night, and have been out the whole time in between.

[static nonsense]

Error usually is, but that's environment right now. It's due to us being home and interacting with family and friends. Outside of that, Kay takes care of work and I'm usually around during more personal time. Not nearly as often as the others are though.

In the future, Kay will most likely be our main fronter due to both my and error's issues with the body. Rather, my issues are just with reality in general. We have talked about switching our fronter in the past and that was the conclusion we came up with.

Zero

[Kaimialana]

I'm always fronting, if thats what you are asking. I can't /not/ front, as much as I've tried. Kai and Alana can step infront of me for periods, but I'm still always here in the body.

~Kaimi

[Jamie]

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[Ryles]

Dra is the one almost constantly in control because he's stuck in front. I'm... not comfortable being out around people, and Layzar.... Layzar shouldn't be allowed out until we're more out as trans, honestly, he almost shouted at Dragon's mom for calling him a girl (she doesn't know about us, so it was, in her mind, calling her "confused daughter" a girl). That's really best kept away from people for awhile.

I don't feel dysphoria at all and generally feel healthier, so it's likely I'd be the one better to control- but I wouldn't want to if it means I had to neglect Dragon to do it. Also, the first time I tried to control the body was quite frightening because I couldn't hear Dragon and, well, I just didn't like it.

Maybe at college things will change, since we won't be around people who knew us and will be out as male.

[MiaAndMarq]

In our situation, its probably Mia just because she's way more expressive. Most people only know of Marq though, so credit is not going where credit is due unfortuanely. But thats changing over time.

We generally get close to equal time over an extended period of time, so things do come close to being even overall.

M&M

[Ghosba]

It's about half and half for us.

I think of our head like our car. We're pretty much always in the driver and shotgun seats, although once in awhile, one of us goes to the back seat, but that's really rare.

That being said, there's more safe space for D.B. to be herself than for me. We tried to come out at the trans group, but just bringing up multiplicity brought out some uncertain attitudes.

We both want me to have some more time when I can drive (and not just when we're driving, laugh out loud) but it's hard. Only a couple of our in real life friends know, and only one of them will give me regular acknowledgement.

Some of these issues I will bring up in a thread made by me.

Sorry, airing dirty laundry, listen to me bitch blah blah blah.

[static nonsense]

gho and db, you'd better come visit us when we get down there D:<

that way you can't say you only have one RL friend that acknowledges you

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[Ghosba]

gho and db, you'd better come visit us when we get down there D:<

Are you kidding? If I let Gho have free reign he'd smother you all with attention. Of course we're going to visit you all, silly!

that way you can't say you only have one RL friend that acknowledges you

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I like how we use the terminology IRL as if the people and things we refer to over the internet aren't actually real.

[Yorrick]

To all the plural systems... In your shared body, is there a certain person in a 'dominant' or 'almost constantly active' state? If so (to the other members of the system), which, if any of you, do you think would take their place if given the chance? By this I mean if your lives could resume without further troubles, and the current 'host' was okay with it?

An interesting question! I would say that Yorrick is certainly the dominant one of us. As for his replacement, if needed- pretty sure that would be Crystal. She is a social butterfly and handles interactions with others a lot better than Yorrick. I would imagine that there would be come complications since the the facet and the body would not exactly line up. Don't give her any ideas

[Crystal] - I really enjoy the times I get to run the show but I'm not so sure I'd want the job full time. Still, it could be fun!

[EJA]

Hey, as late as this reply is...
I've barely been out at all. Elle always is. I don't know how to take full control yet, because even though I'm here now Elle and sometimes Jay is always here, too.
How would, like, Jay or I take control? Does it just happen? I've never fully done it to the point where Elle and Jay aren't there at all. I'm kind of scared to do that.

[rose3]

if michelle had her way she would take over because
Mitchell is a bore and works all the time and has no time for life
Michelle loves life and color she loves pretty things
but Michelle is not very femme in looks be cause she uses Mitchells' body.
Because of Mitchell's life Michelle get bored and lonely.

[EJA]

Although Andy answered this, I thought I'd do so for myself.
It's true I'm usually in control. Jay'll sometimes come out (though he mostly prefers just observes and makes comments instead of taking control), and Andy takes control a fair amount of the time. I'm almost always present, though. Sometimes I'll disappear and let Andy take control completely, but I don't trust Jay to leave him alone in control.

[venusinfurs]

The way we see it, we have different 'jobs', or functions, and one's functions would not fit the other. It isn't an hierarchy, we do what we have to do, and of course it sometimes means we have to give way for one over the others. We sort of suspect that our system 'compensates' for any attempts in functional multiplicity, if we 'miss' someone being at the front for too long, they'll come back with a vengeance.

[Lyn Aven]

I had a few friends who knew about my multiplicity. A couple of them were multiples themselves. I tried to avoid making a big deal of it in general -- I have enough social issues without people thinking I'm crazy.

As for who was typically fronting... That's actually kinda hard to say. It was sort of a democratic system. *laugh* Anyone could assert a desire to do something, and unless someone else countered it, we did it. As I mentioned in another thread, the end result of this often felt like I was just roleplaying as myself. (I still have that feeling in girl-mode when circumstances force me to present male.) Speech was generally delegated to AK or Coda for day-to-day life, although Kran was always ready with some off-the-wall idea or pun or joke. Adam was the core personality, and the strongest -- since the body is technically his, he could generally stop the rest of us from doing something if he tried -- but he was also timid, socially awkward, and had a tendency to get emotional, so he preferred to hang back and let the rest of us figure out what to do and just put in his veto if he didn't like something.

To the outside world, especially, Adam, AK, and Coda were all similar enough in behaviors and speech patterns that no one would have thought we were a multiple system; Kran's input was generally perceived as "oh, he's just being weird again" and Kataki's was perceived as "anger management issues." Poor Karen's motions were almost always stricken down -- AK didn't even acknowledge her existence; she usually ended up hiding behind Coda or Adam, although occasionally she was able to talk Kran into doing something because it would just come off as silly.

[Sora Yukizaku]

I generally front, Yuuki takes second, but its been so blended lately, probably different in this, as we are a median, but if I am down for the count, or screaming because I don't like what people are calling us, Yuuki takes over.

The overkill dysphoria has been getting to us lately, and I manage it better than Sora. Though I am more likely to react badly if we are treated badly enough, in general I manage the stress better.