dealng with bi gender flashes:oops:

[rose3]

[I would like to know how do you handle bi -geender flashes
Like for me i be fine and then some thing changes .My gestures change, my walk change, from a farmer walking be tween rows type of walk, to a flowing gliding walk (southern sashe)
I have notice when i get excited and happy then Ichange to girlish patterns alot
Some time i can feel it coming i get tinglely all over and my walk gets swishy
Then comes the desire to dress the mood when i feel femme. ..yes I am women.

being this way I dont know where I belong I dont know if i should be here or not
But my theripist says Im bi gendered that i have a women in side of this body also

Thanks for being interest to read this:?

[Nicole]

I personally think you should listen to your inner self. Do you agree with your therapists diagnosis?

My suggestion is to get educated on being transgendered. Explore your feminine and masculine self. Perhaps with self knowledge you will better be able to work with yourself for a good solution, whatever that is. There might be the possibility you can integrate these selves into one or you might find they are very separate and you will need to find some sort of compromise. It might be you become aware of your two selves as seperate entities in their own rights that can talk to themselves or, as it sounds like you currently experience it, this twin nature is just another aspect of yourself as in your still yourself either way.

If you are bigendered you could look into the spiritual aspects of being twin souled. Some believe their body is home to two, or more, souls. (you could investigate native American Indian culture regarding this).

Check out
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bigender

(sounds to me like this is definitely a place where you will fit in)

[Jamie]

There might be the possibility you can integrate these selves into one or you might find they are very separate and you will need to find some sort of compromise.

Alternatively, you might rather enjoy having more than one person in your head

[Nicole]

Alternatively, you might rather enjoy having more than one person in your head

I think this is known as "health multiplicity".

[Wesley_Lexi]

Wow, flashbacks. I remember the tingle you're talking about. That was back before Lexi fully came intot he picture. I can assume I know how you feel, since I remember how I felt back then. I was confused, I felt like it didn't make any sense, I was embarassed... I would only 'go femm' when I was home alone, and I would supress it any other time. Now though we're fully comfortable with how we are, thanks largely to this site. Hopefully you will become comfortable as well. My suggestion is this: Let yourselves (assuming that the 'us' in your pronoun field means you go by plurals, if not, then yourself). be femm in private if you feel awkward about it, and then maybe you'll grow more comfortable in time. Basically, try to let things flow as they would normally, and don't fight it. I understand that public can be different though.

BTW, we go by plurals, so I'm sorry if I assumed incorrectly.

[rose3]

gues it like a penut butter and jelly sandwich the more you press down on it the more the jelly seeps out the sides

[Ryles]

You might be gender fluid. Glenn's like that, he can go from very feminine to a bit masculine (rarely totally masculine). His seems to be based more on emotion, too.

[MiaAndMarq]

Also the happy feeling you experience in those instances could really be because some expression you've been unable to do in the past but have been eager to do so is something that within you really want to do more often. That might be the explainantion of why you get giddy or excited.

Like a feeling of relief, if you're doing things right for you, you'll feel it. It'll feel right, it'll feel like it fits. The trick is to find out all what that is.

M&M