omelu wrote:I explained in my intro but I'll explain again since it means something to me.
I like to listen to audiobooks of books I've read, one series I listen to a lot is Earth's Children by Jean M. Auel which is a series about prehistoric (talking paleolithic here) times, it was begun in the '80s so a lot of the research is out of date compared to what we know (or think we do) now, but annnyway, the main characters are on a journey in The Plains of Passage and they come across a group of people, and long story short, there's a burial of some young people, one of which is not easily identifiable as a man or a woman. This is Omel. Omel's parents concealed Omel's gender for unknown reasons and for that culture Omel was a gender neutral name. No one ever knew.
Omel lived and died without gender.
There was another genderqueer character who could pass a straight man, gay man, straight woman, or lesbian woman. Its never revealed what this characters birth gender is either, though the pronouns used where masculine (sort of by default). This character didn't have a personal name though because the shamans in this series give up their birth names an use the name of their position or their people, but also this character was much older. Omel was fairly young, young enough that even the people who were on the look out for something to indicate gender still couldn't tell. Part of my gender issues are also age issues (puberty was a cosmic mistake for me). But, from an American stand point Omel sounds kind of masculine (or at least I think it does) so I tacked a 'u' on the end. Not sure if it helps make it more neutral, but it also makes it just mine.
Ack, I hated that series. The first book was pretty good, but some of the science was terrible, it's softcore porn from book 2 onwards, and the main characters are total Mary Sues (I mean, as soon as they meet any new group that group's entire lives change to focus on the characters, and they invent flint-starting fire, domestication of animals, horseriding... this it two people. Oh, and of course they're both devastatingly beautiful, and just about every female character is attracted to the male lead to a ridiculous degree.