I've decided to stay with my birth name: Brett.
Recently I discovered that it was really a feminine name that has come into unisex usage. So, I'm quite happy with this. I might change the spelling to "Brette" since I have to change the spelling anyway due the fact that it was never spelled right on my birth certificate. (It's "Bret" and should have been "Brett").
I'm also considering changing my middle name, but my spouse has a problem with this**. My middle name is "Lance" but I want it to be "Lana." She could deal with "Lanae" (the German version of Lana) or even "Rene," my dad's middle name, or she could also live with two middle names such as: "Lance Lana" (our son has two middle names).
**You would have to understand my history and marital dynamics to know why. I may share that when it seems more relevant, maybe as an introduction since this is my very first post on this forum!
Umm, OK, just a little bit: Poetically, I am a female soul clothed in a male form. Bluntly, I am a MTF transsexual who has chosen to remain in male form for the sake of my wife and my marriage vows to her and to God. BUT wait, it's not even THAT simple! I'm really a blend of genders and my body is not fully male either. AND my spouse is actually a (mostly) male soul clothed in a (mostly) female form!
Since I have given-up my "right" to SRS (a dozen years ago) and to hormones (at least as long as my spouse lives), then I will live as transgendered "in-between." I call this expression: "Fairly Uniquely Brett" (FUB) and I'm working on how I do this exactly. I'm becoming MUCH better at "passing" as me!!! (AND, overall, I've received a lot of positive feedback!)
I am thoroughly convinced that God will give me a new and fully suitable body for me in eternity, and it's that knowledge (and my love-relationship with Him) that enables me to endure my body as it is in it's male form - it's only temporary!