I have a dear friend, a genetic female, who is like a twin-sister to me, and she calls me her "brother/Sister" (adding sister and capitalizing it). This is something I continually find to be very special because she knows me better than probably any other human; she also very much "gets us," having another close friend who is a transitioning transwoman. Also, I have some trans-acquaintances in my local city who refer to me in the feminine - I find it very special because they choose to recognize the way I am inside.
I think that I would prefer to be referred in the feminine, but I know that most cisgendered people would have difficulty doing that and I would have to "push" (however gently) to be referred this way. (I am a very gentle person and I would rather not be pushy about this point; I know what I am and God knows what I am - it's not nearly so important that everyone else acknowledge it. BESIDES, I live in transgender/blended-gender mode and (at least for now) I think that is "push enough" on the people around me: I regularly violate gender-appearance-norms in a somewhat understated way, I am soft-spoken and I move gracefully - the overall effect seems to be quite feminine, yet not effeminate. My profile picture is pretty representative of my normal appearance.)
Where I have trouble is in those cases where I have been very open/detailed about who and what I am and people (such as my pastor) insist that I am what *they* think I am. These people would insist that I am a man when I will acknowledge that I am clothed in a male form and must act in many male roles, but I am not a 'man.' They think I am confused about this when it is really that that are confused. Such people at best think that I'm a "feminine man" (I'm not; I'm not a 'man') and I won't dignify what they think at worst. But <sigh> even here, if it makes it possible grow our relationship so they can see who I really am (and see Christ in me), then they can call me whatever they wish - my sense of self does not depend on them (anymore).
SO, all that said, If people (here) would like to refer to me in the feminine, I would be OVERJOYED! (BUT please do so because you sense that I am a feminine person and not simply because I say that I am!) And on THAT note:
This post was measured by a program called the GenderAnalyzer. Here is what it said about my writing here:
We think WiG_Post_2.html is written by a woman (70%).
The GenderAnalyzer is a very interesting program. I usually score as a woman or gender neutral. Here is the URL:
What I did is to copy the text into an HTML document and upload it to my webspace and then point the GA to it and let it go...
Take Care Lyn and Everyone!