challenges of sex and being trans

[TFP]

I would really prefer to have a "one night stand" rather than sex in a relationship (it's a preference, I don't want a lecture, thanks) but being pre-op and pre-T I'm not really sure how to go about my preferred sort of sex. I don't want to go to a standard bar and pick up a straight guy or a gay bar and look for a lesbian as that would involve a sex dynamic I don't want (and explaining to a random straight guy that we're not touching the vagina, instead, I'm going to use this penis on you would make terrible foreplay : P).

So, I've thought of online dating sites but those seem to focus on dating and as mentioned I don't really want that at this point.


Short version: How does a super-butch-looking "woman" find a stranger for pegging?

[SarahNicole]

That last line got me chuckling for some reason...

But anyhow. I don't know about where you live, but here in Canada we have a site named plentyoffish.com where you can specify that you're looking for an intimate meeting, as opposed to dating. But that's just one of the options available. You just have to look at the various dating sites to see what they offer for your status.

EDIT: I don't know if this is super appropriate, but "pegging" has always been a concept that turned me on

[EJA]

craigslist.

[TFP]

Hah, I've considered craigslist but that seems a way to get some sleazy and not exactly understanding individuals.

I'm in Florida, but I suppose I could go with a standard, free, dating/sex service and specify somewhere about my identity and preference for sex (maybe just the latter would be easier). Out in the middle of nowhere I just feel damn limited sometimes in the options for safe sexual meetings that get me what I want.

[EJA]

Dunno, craigslist has some pretty out-there people. There's an entire market of guys looking for tgirls and vice versa, and in between, so I'm sure you can find something.

Even though it is a little sleazy.
/shrug

[Saturday]

My girlfriend says check out fetlife.com. It's mostly a kink site, but the kink community tends to be pretty awesomely open-minded. It's basically a facebook for alternative lifestyles.

[Psychopomp]

I don't know much about Fetlife but I wouldn't trust Craigslist. They've gotten rid of their adult section anyway.

[venla-eerik]

I've got the same situation; pre-everything and a big believer of the one night stands.

I don't have a clue how to get sex through internet, but I'm pretty good at getting it elsewhere. It seems to me that there are lots of bi-guys, who'd love to be f*cked by a female-bodied person. And bi-girls let me take the man's role without no problems. So all you need is a working bi-dar.

[TFP]

Hah, part of my problem is that I don't really want to do any of the guys (or gals) in my home town... we all know each, even if not diretly, through someone else. Maybe I should spend more time in the nearby city, feels more anonymous that way!

[Sash]

I'd have to second FetLife, though you might have to be at least partly upfront in your profile about being trans and look through the forums. There seem to be a lot of guys into strap-ons/pegging on there...

[Jicragg]

I'd have to second FetLife, though you might have to be at least partly upfront in your profile about being trans and look through the forums. There seem to be a lot of guys into strap-ons/pegging on there...

In regards to Fetlife though I don't go into the trans groups but they are generally very accepting and lots of people who are attracted to transpeople are there. Worth a look I suppose for the sex advice if nothing else.
NB: It isn't a dating site. It's known as 'the fetish facebook'

[Saturday]

Also in regards to Fetlife, for those interested, there are PLENTY of options for your gender in your profile. You can set it to: male, female, crossdresser/transvestite, Trans/MtF, Trans/FtM, Transgender, Genderfluid, Genderqueer, Intersex, Butch, Femme, or N/A. It is EXCELLENT.

P.S. if you do join up, I'm SaturdayShadow. You can look me up and add me.

[Sash]

I'd have to second FetLife, though you might have to be at least partly upfront in your profile about being trans and look through the forums. There seem to be a lot of guys into strap-ons/pegging on there...

In regards to Fetlife though I don't go into the trans groups but they are generally very accepting and lots of people who are attracted to transpeople are there. Worth a look I suppose for the sex advice if nothing else.
NB: It isn't a dating site. It's known as 'the fetish facebook'

Yeah, but it fits the requirements stated in the first post. People do hook up over there, just generally not for romantic purposes.

[Kladeos]

If you're near Seattle, there's a service called Lust Lab provided online by The Stranger. Or maybe something else near you has queer-friendly NSA personal ads?