Having sex pre-op

[SarahNicole]

I'm curious about what people feel like individually about this issue.

Does it bother you or, in the case of having not had any prior experience, do you think it would bother you to use or let your partner touch your genitals if you are having pre-op sex? Some trans people I've read about are extremely adamant about pretending they don't even have said body part. However I don't think I feel that extreme about myself. Sure, I'd prefer it wasn't there, but I think I could be OK with somebody touching my penis or using it to pleasure me. I think I'd have strong reservations about using it for penetrative sex, but I don't completely ignore that I have it. It's my main means to an orgasm after all. The only way I think I could see me having any issue at all is if I wasn't out with my partner about being trans. I don't want to be looked at or treated as a gay male, so I don't want my partner to *expect* me to use my penis on them. I'd rather they use theirs on me, and then just play with mine through maybe oral or other means. As long as my partner realizes that I have no intention of penetrating them, then I think I'm OK.

I realize the opinions on this will vary wildly, so I'm just curious to see what people think.

[Faolan]

I'm FtM so I suppose things for me are a little different. (I've also never had sex, so this is all hypothetical).

I, for one, would never ever even consider any kind of vaginal penetration. Psychologically there are so many things wrong with that for me that I completely reject the thought of it. I would use "aids" or whatever for penetration on my partner but, as you said, I would prefer they use it on me (in the case of, ahem, anal penetration). As far as oral goes (to be performed on me) I guess I would be okay with that, as long as they didn't call it "eating me out".

In a perfect world I would have a penis and this entire post wouldn't matter.. sigh. Hahaha