I don't want to hide

[KatsuSutcliff]

So I'm becoming more and more sure about my gender identity, and I'm identifying more as a boy.

I love being mistaken for a boy now, and now that my hair is extremely short, I can pull it off more easily(cept Smile-kun needs to return my freakin tanktop with the built in bra, I can't bind without it >.<)

But, I really want to tell my family. Not only because everytime they call me "she" or "her" or "Sh**by" or even anything feminine, I want to cry or scream at them that I hate being called that....

But it's also because I don't want to hide from them. I hate it when I have to hide things from them.
I'm not quite sure how I go about telling them, cause they're more than likely to tell me I'm just going through a phase and that there's absolutely no way to know for sure(I'm not stating that they'll get mad or throw me out, cause they're pretty accepting of LGBT stuff, they were ok when I told them I was bi)

I want to tell them, but I don't know how, and I'm sick and tired of hiding from them and I'm also sick and tired of being a little boy trapped in this female death trap of a body.

Advice/hugs would be great ):

[Lyn Aven]

*hugs!*

[Psychopomp]

Be firm about everything, (you are transgendered, not you think you are) don't leave room for doubt. Stress how crushing it is every time someone emphasizes the wrong gender (or if they call it a phase) and don't compromise.

As for how you come out, formally seems to be the popular way to do it, letter writing in particular. You don't have to be there when they read it and it gives them time to let your words stew and any tempers to calm before you show up to talk about it all.

[Kass-ID]

*hugs*
I'm not sure how they will react, but I know that sometimes family and parents will surprise you and it all goes swimmingly. I hope that's the way it turns out for you. Best of luck.

[SarahNicole]

The problem I'm having in this regard is that I do also want to formally tell everyone myself, but I can have mood swings like 20 times a day, and I'm still not "sure" of myself yet. So I don't want to tell somebody and then change my mind later.

[KatsuSutcliff]

Be firm about everything, (you are transgendered, not you think you are) don't leave room for doubt. Stress how crushing it is every time someone emphasizes the wrong gender (or if they call it a phase) and don't compromise.

As for how you come out, formally seems to be the popular way to do it, letter writing in particular. You don't have to be there when they read it and it gives them time to let your words stew and any tempers to calm before you show up to talk about it all.

I might try a letter, I'm actually a very eloquent writer when it comes down to telling someone something serious(I came out to my boyfriend as transgender in a letter).

But a letter seems the best way to do it, thanks (:

[KatsuSutcliff]

I've decided I'm going to write a letter, and my "Day of Reckoning"(day I'll oh-so inconspicuosly place it somewhere the adults in my house can read it) has been moved from Jully 5, 2011 to Either February 14 or February 28(depending on when i can get the letter written down and written down right)

The date would be sooner, if too much shit wasn't already going down right now.

So right now, my time is devoted to my art, my friends, my letter-writing, and my studies.

.....Ku: Katsu, let's not forget you-know who

shuuuush your face, Kuro (>///<)

[Psychopomp]

If you think it'll help, try citing some studies or directing the reader to a website that might be able to answer some of their questions. I'm sure there's got to be some informational websites for parents of transgendered kids.

[Eldon]

I went throughthe same thing as you. I hated the thought of keeping it from them and I went through an incredibly nervewraking talk with them. I hate being a high schooler, the letter thing would probably have caused more problems for me

[Scottie]

You know, this sounds impossible... But if you're not sure, TELL THEM you're questioning your gender and having a really hard time with it. Maybe ask them to let you go to a gender therapist to work through your issues. If you're really what trans, you'll be diagnosed with GID and they can't really argue with that. If not, you didn't just drop a bombshell that taking back would crush their ability to take you seriously. Just my suggestion.

[Dave]

So how'd it go? The Day of Reckoning was supposed to be July 5.