Is there an LGBT center anywhere where you live? Colleges/universities often have them, and will give you information. See of you can find a trans group (support or otherwise) in your town - google, meetup.com, and yahoo groups are helpful with that. They're even more likely to have useful information on finding doctors, and if you can hang out with other trans people it can actually be really nice.
Friends can surprise you. And if the worst happens, it would have happened eventually anyway, harsh as that is.