Coming out to my fiancé :o)

[taylor11]

I've just realized Im bigender less then a month ago, and am a 'female' engaged to a male. Really duno how this is guna go Hes not a talker.. when I try to talk about 'deep' stuff she thinks Im nuts, in a light way, it just makes him uncomfortable, which I understand for obivous reasons but I gota talk to him about it, no easy way to do I know.. I have been hinting! Any suggestions on how to bring it up to a man?

[Alder]

well, when I told my ex I just very bluntly blurted out I wish I was a man... okay it was more of drunkenly sobbing outside the bar. I guess this doesn't help much.... unless you want to also drunkenly blurt out everything in an utter mess after puking.

[taylor11]

well, when I told my ex I just very bluntly blurted out I wish I was a man... okay it was more of drunkenly sobbing outside the bar. I guess this doesn't help much.... unless you want to also drunkenly blurt out everything in an utter mess after puking.

Haha! I've told him I wish I had your penis, I should have been a son, stuff like that.. But not straight out, hey, im bi gender. He knows im bi and like girls more then males (he's luckily) lol, so who knows maybe he knows

[EJA]

Why not bring it up casually? If you don't make it into an entire ordeal, he may not either. Something simple like "sometimes I feel like a boy instead of a girl; how do you feel about that?" or whatever is most appropriate for your dynamic as a couple. Coming out in a very intense way (e.x. sitting him down, having a big, serious discussion, etc) might overwhelm/scare him. Telling him in a more diminutive way (but still a very clear and direct way) will give him some time to get used to it and will allow you to gauge his reaction. Then, later, you can have more of a chat, or talk to him about presenting as male when you feel like it or whatever it is you would like to do.